6 Signs You Should End Your Current Relationship
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I get it. Ending a relationship is never easy. When I ended my relationship of 4.5 years with my ex, it was so much more painful than it needed to be and dragged on waaaay longer than it should’ve. Why? Because neither of us wanted to call it quits. Instead, we trapped ourselves in a wretched cycle of emotional games, manipulation, lies, and pain. Calling it quits on a relationship is already hard as it is, but we hurt ourselves and our partner even more by staying in a relationship that no longer serves our highest & greatest good. Read below and see if you identify with any of these signs that it may be time to move on.
You’re going out every weekend
Girl, seriously. If you’re going out every weekend and choosing to get shit-faced with your friends rather than spending time with your partner…that’s a big red flag. Especially if you two have opposite schedules, yet you CHOOSE to go out rather than spending some QT together when your schedules finally do align is a sign within itself. If you’re not willing to spend your free time with your partner, are you truly wanting to be in this relationship?
Your sex life that was once thriving, is now little to non-existent
HUGE RED FLAG, especially if you’re used to having sex on a regular basis with one another. Sex is SO important within an intimate relationship because it’s, well, one of the biggest signs of intimacy! It’s one of the few activities that’s shared only between the two of you (unless you’re in an open relationship, then clearly this doesn’t apply) and helps you both connect on a deeper level. So if your sex life has taken a spot on the back-burner, you’re only having sex while you’re extremely intoxicated, AND/OR you’re flat out fantasizing about what it’d be like to sleep with that hottie from the gym…it may be a sign that it’s time to call it quits.
You’re bringing out the ugly in one another, rather than the best
I actually want to dedicate a whole blog post to just this topic but let me just say that if your partner is seeing and receiving you at your ugliest— consistently— it may be time to call it quits. A good relationship acts as a mirror and your partner is also a reflection of you. A healthy relationship makes you WANT to be the best version of yourself and when you have those moments that aren’t so great— which WILL happen because life isn’t perfect— you still choose to not succumb to your lowest, ugliest, tendencies out of respect for your partner and relationship. Just because your partner sees you at your ugliest doesn’t mean that they should.
You’re googling whether or not you should stay together
If you find yourself up late at night on google searching, “Should I leave my partner even though he’s a great guy?” chances are, deep down, you already know the answer to your question. Not kidding, I’ve actually found myself searching online whether or not I should leave my boyfriend when what I should have been doing was looking INSIDE myself for the answers. Let me save you that google search and tell you YES.
You’re hiding things from them
Are you living a separate life on weekends? Are you doing something that if your partner found out about, would absolutely break their heart? Be honest with yourself: why are you hiding things from them? If you’re acting single when you’re clearly in a relationship…then shouldn’t you just be SINGLE!? Healthy communication and trust is key to a happy relationship, and hiding things from your partner hurts both of these important aspects.
You’re reading this list and it’s resonating with you
Did this post pop up on your google search? LOL but really, if you’re looking for a sign, then THIS IS IT. Yes, ending a relationship is scary af, especially if you’ve been with each other for a number of years…but if the relationship is no longer serving both you and your partner’s highest selves, it’s time to either a) honestly re-evaluate your relationship to help heal and get it back on track or b) end it altogether. You are stronger than you realize, my love…and although this particular chapter may be ending, I promise there’s another that’s already being written.
