4 Mantras to Help You Calm Your Shit While Planning a Wedding
There’s no need to sugar coat it, if you’re a wife-to-be, you know planning a wedding can be stressful AF! You’re not alone my love! I’m right there with you, literally, and with less than 5 months away until our wedding, I’m sharing 4 things I’ve learned that has helped me calm my shit while planning for this special day.
“Everything is figure out-able; Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither is this wedding”
My love, you DO NOT need to have everything figured out at one time! It’s so easy to get overwhelmed when seeing everything that needs to get done…especially if you’re having your wedding at Airbnb estate (like I am) or somewhere similar where everything has to be planned from scratch. From finding the perfect caterer, to figuring out what song you want as your first dance (or in my case, WHERE we should have our first dance), I had to remind myself that there’s beauty in resting as much as there is in doing. Taking a step back and tackling these issues one day at a time rather than trying to get everything done in one-fell swoop, eases so much stress and pressure. Be gentle with yourself, especially if your wedding is months (if not years) away! You have the time and you WILL figure it out.
“This wedding is about me and my fiancé NOT anyone— or anything— else.”
Whether it’s planning the guest list or figuring out if you should have Dish A or Dish B for the main entree, remember that your wedding comes down to the love you and your fiancé have for each other. I found myself getting irritated with G for little things, like trying to decide whether we should have farmwood tables or regular tables…LIKE WHO CARES?! No one’s going to remember what tables they sat on and is it reallllyyyy worth arguing over?
“My wedding party has my back.”
My big, whose also my bridesmaid, reminded me of this during one of my mini freakouts. The people in your wedding party should be filled with people you’re closest to and they WANT to see you happy on your big day…that’s why they agreed to be in your wedding party, right?! If you task your wedding party with something, TRUST that they will get it done (especially if you have time before your big day) and try not to stress over the way they do do it or when. I know, easier said than done especially if you have a Type-A personality like me but if the people in your wedding party are truly your besties, they WILL have your back and they WILL get it done.
“Planning a wedding is only the beginning of the journey, not the end-all/be-all of our relationship.”
So much time and effort goes into planning this one day— yes, it’s a special day, but it’s not the epitome of your relationship. There’s life after the wedding, in fact, there’s a whole lifetime ahead for the two of you! I try to think of our wedding as “the cherry on top” to an already oh-so-sweet life that I share with my man.
So there you have it, friends! Now what about you, how’s your wedding planning going? I’d love to hear what you did to keep that wedding-planning stress in check, so share with me below or shoot me an email. Whether your wedding is around the corner or you still have a few months to go, just remember…there’s life after this wedding and WE GOT THIS!!!! Until next week! XO
